U: yes…hi neat freak
M: 🙂
M: After I left home, it has been getting less and less.
U: less and less of being a neat freak?
M: Since it’s not easy to make friends if it’s severe
M: can say it.
M: some of friends who knew it would pay attention to it and avoid to upset me, but some of friends just ignore it.
M: I really appreciate that the friends pay attention to avoid to upset me.
U: what exactly would make you upset?
M: It’s not easy to describle.
U: ok…i just don’t want to make you upset
M: you are a polite gentleman. you wouldn’t upset me, I know.
U: thank you
M: welcome
M: When I was at school, I didn’t like any other person sat or lied in my bed.
M: We lived in a dorm. 7 girls in total in one room.
M: When I was in college, we took an exam. By accidence, one of my male classmate’s pen was in my book and  I brought it home. When I found it, I put it to the security office. I don’t like to keep another person’s stuff. 😛
U: it seems it be easier to give it back to him in person
M: It’s almost the last day of the school.
M: I made efforts to find his email and sent him an email telling him to get his pen in the security office.
U: was it a success?
M: sure
M: When I went to school, he might not be in school. It’s the exam week. You should know how the school works here.
M: Here is another example
M: When I just came to Canada, I met a man.
M: He was quite friendly.
M: I invited him to my place once.
U: just once?
M: He made me quite uncomfortable: he put his magazine in my bookshelf without asking my permission.
M: Maybe he wanted to give it to me, but he should ask my permission for it, right?
U: a magazine?
M: yeah.
U: on your bookshelf?
M: yeah.
U: i don’t understand why it would make you uncomfortable
M: I don’t like to keep another person’s stuff.
U: i see
U: do you invite him back again?
M: He could just throw in the carbage bin.
M: We drove for a while and he sent me home. It’s not polite to invite him to have a look at my home, right?
M: should say: to have something to drink
U: i’m not sure
U: it depends on what your intentions were
M: I tried to be polite and friendly.
M: ok, I tell you something else.
M: some experience of mine that connects the history of China.
U: if it is someone you are dating it is OK to invite over
M: if not, it’s also ok.
U: yes…so i don’t understand the problem
M: Should say: I don’t like him putting his stuff in my room without asking my permission.
U: OK
M: He brought his magazine in and then he should bring his magazine out.
U: so because of that…you didn’t invite him over anymore?
M: I think, the real problem is that I didn’t like him that way. 😛
U: good answer
M: *.
U: but he was a gentleman
U: and you were riding in his car
M: He even let me driving his car. That’s nice
U: yes…very nice
U: and just because he left a magazine in your room.
M: but he upset me. I perferred to drive with my coach and pay him.
U: well…anyway
U: when i visit Toronto…i will make sure not to bring any magazines
M: 😛
M: You are lovely, and fun
M: If you upset me, I will tell you.
U: i’m afraid of that
M: of what?
U: i’m very easy going
U: and sometimes i just take it for granted that others are the same
M: 🙂
U: i would never purposely try to upset anyone
U: everything i do is in good nature
M: I am also easy going.  You know, my colleague even brought an unknown woman to stay with me at night. How can a person be easy going in that way?
U: i’m just trying to imagine your character
M: calm, quiet, gentle
M: friendly
U: yes…i notice that
M: 🙂
U: but…you don’t like magazines placed on your bookshelf
U: i will keep that in mind
M: There are two kinds of people:
U: male and female?
M: one: if you tell him what upset you, they will pay attention to avoid it.
M: the other: if you tell them what upset you, they think that they are offended.
U: its very difficult to offend me
M: I think you are the first type.
U: i agree
M: That man I mentioned above isn’t included in these two types: he just ignores everything.
M: He doesn’t think he is offended. He also doesn’t pay attention to it.
U: then there are three kinds of people
M: I’m the first type.
M: It’s good to respect another’s habbit, right?
M: If I upset you, you can tell me. I will pay attention to it.
U: yes…its good to respect all aspects of another person
M: 🙂
U: i doubt very much if you can upset or offend me
M: 😉
M: I think that there is one thing you may hate.
U: I’m a New Yorker…and we have a motto of “live and let live”
M: what does it mean?
U: do what makes you happy…and let others do the same
M: ((nod))
M: that’s good.
U: what is the one thing I may hate?
M: Someone wants to change your character.
U: that would go against my belief of “live and let live”
M: 🙂
U: why would someone want to change my character?
M: I don’t like others want to change my character either.
U: i think it is impossible to change someone’s character
M: that’s true
M: no one wants to change your character? always some people want to change my character.
U: i only like changing my clothes
M: 🙂